Monday, May 21, 2012 11:06 PM
Toxic friendships
Talking about something that is really personal to me today...
Friendship.
It's something that all of us, as humans, have, at least at one point in our lives. I read a quote once and it said, "Friends are the family you find along the way." In most ways, that's true. In some ways, it's not.
See, the thing is, most friendships aren't constant. As much as I would like to say I wish it was, it isn't. We as humans are born with tastes, preferences and opinions. Just these things alter our choice of friends. Some surround themselves with good friends, and some, well, not-so-good friends. In life, it's about knowing who YOU want to associate yourself with and what YOU desire.
Toxic friendships are something I'm sure we've all come across at one stage. They're the friends that stick around for a while but then start to affect you in a negative way. I've had my fair share of toxic friendships. I'm sure the name 'toxic' is already obvious enough. If you keep them there long enough, it's just a matter of time before they start to harm you. The best way to stay clear of toxic friends is to just get rid of them. They have no place in your lives if you have no place in theirs. If you want the friendship, you've got to put in the effort.
No friendship works one way. Friendships are just like relationships. If one person is putting in the effort and the other is slacking off, eventually it'll just fall apart. People are not dogs. You do not treat them like dogs. I hate people who sit back and receive whilst the rest of the other people are giving. What kind of system is that?! What good is there? If I'm there for you, you have to be there for me too buddy.
Girl friendships. There are 2 GOLDEN rules that apply, to all girls. ALL girls.
1. No matter what, you do not like/go out with the same person your girl friend likes.
2. No matter what, you do not like/go out with your girl friends ex boyfriend.
These two conditions aren't even rules. They're more like laws. You break them and all hell will break loose.
Sure. Go ahead and like a person. We cannot help our feelings. But we can control our actions. Going with your feelings without even caring about your friends feelings? Isn't that a bit trashy? Low? Selfish? Would you like to be treated like that? Since when did a boy override friendship? I'm pretty sure last time I checked, 'friends' don't do that to each other.
Actually.
Fuck.
I don't know what's worse. The fact that you betrayed your friends or the fact that you're still going to act on your feelings.
Did we even mean anything to you? As friends, did we? Were we not good enough so you had to find some other friends to hang out with? I DON'T EVEN KNOW YOU ANYMORE. And it fucking hurts me. Because being friends with you, being best friends with you was one of the best things that happened to me.
You replaced me. I don't know how I feel about that, but you replaced me. I thought we were still going to be best friends but it turns out that, it isn't the case right? 3 fucking years I've been there for you. 3 years of our friendship gone down the drain because you're too ignorant and selfish to open your eyes and realise how much destruction you've caused. I've stood by the sidelines. I've played the 'forgotten friend' for a whole year. I know you better than anyone else does, so I know for a fact when I say that you're heading in the wrong direction.
You're one of my toxic friends. Yeah, those 3 years were unbelievable. We had so many great times together, and laughs, and plenty of inside jokes, but I guess its time I realise that holding onto you isn't what's best for both of us.
Hope life treats you well, I guess...
Xx.
Labels: friends, personal, rant